Dhammarato Dhamma

Slings and Arrows | Alex #30 | 9.18.22

Alex and Dhammarato discuss the depths of relationships and intimacy. #relationships #intimacy #buddhadhamma 
Elisabeth Kübler-Rosshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisabeth_Kübler-Ross
Sadie Hawkins Dayhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sadie_Hawkins_Day
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00:00:00 Getting on top of the world in seclusion; Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and bargaining00:09:28 Eric Berne’s alcohol games: drunk and proud; lush; battles and drinking00:16:29 What does it look like to let a relationship die? Changes in the age of adulthood00:32:00 Seeing dukkha instead of satisfaction; meditation, Sangha, and loneliness00:38:22 Love the one you’re with; grounding a pathway into the mind; Sadie Hawkins Day/Dance00:52:15 Seeing the cycle helps you get out of it; sex drive and intimacy

Dhamma Eye | The Sangha US #53 | 9.17.22

The Sangha discuss what it means to see with the eye of the Dhamma. #buddhadhamma #gratification #identification 
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00:00:00 ‘Seeing With the Eye of the Dhamma’; headless chickens; beheaded in childhood00:09:09 The majority want magic; being blinded by lies00:16:01 What is the Dhamma eye? Lower the banner; tribalism comes from the nesting instinct00:35:25 Seeing what’s not there; keep looking, keep investigating00:53:07 All the world’s a stage; gratification, danger, and escape01:02:26 Self-destructive behaviour; Ayn Rand and selfishness01:11:18 Seeing further ahead01:13:58 Back to the Dhamma eye01:16:39 Spiritual materialism01:19:50 Saddhā

Gratification and Danger | Keyshawn #23 | 9.17.22

Keyshawn and Dhammarato talk about seeing the dangers of arguing with people as a counterbalance to perceived benefits. #arguments #relationships #wisdom
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00:00 Perceived benefits from arguing with people: dangers, ramifications02:17 Gratification, danger, and escape; wise responses10:00 Smiling again; don’t be sorry, party

Everything | The Sangha UK #82 | 9.14.22

The Sangha discuss common misunderstandings of the Dhamma and how a more realistic understanding informs the basics of daily practice. #knowledge #understanding #freedom
Yathā-bhūta-ñāna-dassana in context - the Upanisasutta (vital conditions for freedom)https://suttacentral.net/sn12.23
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00:00 Informal structure around the noble Dhamma02:14 Yathā-bhūta-ñāna-dassana: knowledge and vision of things as they are; lawfulness 07:12 Mistaking the Dhamma for an ontology; limitations to what we can know13:01 Figure things out: what causes dukkha? How do the four noble truths work?14:37 Analogy of athlete who practices without skill; active investigation and effort to understand and make a change17:07 Cost-benefit analysis - when we remember19:27 Advice for someone joining religious Buddhism; visit to Lao wat; the third fetter24:58 Laypeople and the noble Dhamma; becoming a monk; the worldly winds; friendship 33:10 Flaws in practice; root misunderstandings; never mind, start again38:44 Investigation vs. narrative; from dukkha to sukha44:00 What are the foundations of practice? Waking up, the effort of letting go45:31 Obvious unwholesome thoughts vs. under the radar thoughts; concepts and fabrications

Finding Nobility | Michael C #1 | 9.14.22

Michael and Dhammarato talk about aspects of the Triple Gem (Buddha, Dhamma, Sangha) in Eastern and Western socio-historical contexts as a foundation for understanding the process of becoming friends with ourselves so we can become friends with others. #buddhadhamma #friendship #wisdom
Suttas mentioned in this discussionhttps://suttacentral.net/sn45.2https://suttacentral.net/mn139
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00:00 Thai wat in Tulsa; wats in the US; Buddha, Dhamma, Sangha08:58 The influence of Ashoka; nobles: it takes one to know one13:51 How Buddhism reached the West; dukkha is dissatisfaction; following our instincts17:28 Being taught to be a victim; doing things we don’t want to do; set it down22:08 Wisdom: how to aim our ambitions; the noble eightfold path; the half sutta (SN 45.2)28:11 Disunity of mind; lying to ourselves; ānāpānasati; relaxing; gladdening the mind32:53 Becoming friends with ourselves; development of US wats39:26 Buddhadāsa’s ‘No Religion’; seeing things as they really are41:43 Conversations with Bhikkhu Buddhadāsa about Jesus; teaching the Dhamma (MN 139)49:49 Cleaning one’s mind and dealing with others in a friendly way

Wake Up; Make a Change | Gregory #1 | 9.14.22

Gregory and Dhammarato talk about the foundations of good practice with reference to the martial arts. #anapanasati #beinginthemoment #martialarts 
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00:00 Wing Chun, acupuncture, Bodhidharma, Shaolin, Shogunate; ānāpānasati; form and outcome04:05 Analogy with martial arts; meditation and Christianity06:15 Becoming aware of tension and anxiety so we can relax; a body-mind training12:22 Dukkha, dukkha-nirodha; wanting things that are not immediately available16:18 We are driven by our feelings; the habit of dukkha19:38 Coming straight out of dissatisfaction into satisfaction; waking up and making a change28:04 Samma sankappa; stability of the mind: samādhi32:02 This is a moment to practice

Coming to Our Senses | Laurent #11 | 9.13.22

Laurent and Dhammarato talk about how the relationship with the sankhāras develops during practice. #dependentorigination #beinginthemoment #anapanasati 
Suttas mentioned in this discussionhttps://suttacentral.net/mil
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00:00 The breathing becomes an anchor to the here now; mala beads; bracelets07:10 Society teaches us to be on guard in case of danger11:30 Coming to our senses12:58 Reframing sankhāras - from disliking to liking; hello darkness my old friend; friendship organises the mind19:05 Never mind, start again; Milinda’s questions to Nāgasena (Mil 3.1.1)23:28 Recognising the role of the breath; seeing the factors; looking at the five aggregates26:19 Dependent origination (paticcasamuppāda); comparisons with past images and feelings32:14 Not reacting to sankhāras: inner and outer; nobles and Sangha36:15 Building up enjoyment of the situation: being fully aware and enjoying the show; taking a hike

Put Down the Shiny Objects | Laurens D #1 | 9.13.22

Laurens and Dhammarato talking about living in the here and now. #beinginthemoment #buddhadhamma #satisfaction
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00:00 Confusion and loneliness; nobles and others; waking up to the lies you’ve been told14:55 Looking for something you don’t have; putting down the shiny objects16:52 The four requisites19:23 A two-step process; seclusion and practice; associating with nobles23:21 Just completed a six-week retreat; throwing unwholesome thoughts out27:36 Options for the future; don’t think too far in advance30:06 Fear: recognising the thoughts that bring it on33:12 Changing attitude: look at what you are doing and make a change36:00 Suññata; nobody knows they’ve made it all up37:56 Dialogue between parent and child; terrifying ourselves with rules and standards42:46 Feeling nourished and taken care of; thinking of the future; get used to being in the here now46:05 Sense contact with the world you live in

Stop Looking for Results | The Sangha UK #81 | 9.11.22

The Sangha talk about abandoning Western goal-orientation and concentrating on safety, security, comfort, and satisfaction right here, right now. #mindfulnessofbreathing #ānāpānasati #meditation 
Suttas mentioned in this discussionhttps://suttacentral.net/mn19
The 16 stages of ānāpānasati https://www.buddhistinquiry.org/article/mindfulness-of-breathing-anapanasati-sutta-mn-118/
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00:00 Right effort and goal orientation; not getting what we want04:33 The Butterfly Effect07:40 Relaxing instead of thinking about stages; wisdom is knowing where you are12:30 “Gladdening the mind” is a thread to unravel what is going on in the mind (MN 19)17:45 The difference between mind and mind objects21:29 Correct metta practice is a form of gladdening the mind; work on the inner first28:37 Dukkha, dukkha-nirodha; ānāpānasati is the method42:36 Steps 9, 10, 11 & 12 of ānāpānasati; samādhi; drop the standards and nurture yourself53:40 The benefits of laziness

Taking Control | The Sangha US #52 | 9.10.22

The Sangha discuss how to take control of thoughts, feelings, the body, and the breath. #mindfulnessofbreathing #control #freedom 
Suttas mentioned in this discussionhttps://suttacentral.net/mn48
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00:00:00 Taking control; we are taught to be out of control of our feelings00:17:58 The satipatthāna; controlling the breathing; sati; look at what we’re doing and make an improvement00:21:24 Being taught that things are important; what are you going to do with your last moment?00:24:36 No security through things; wanting power; delayed gratification; victimhood00:30:25 The practice of feeling safe, secure, comfortable, and satisfied (MN 48)00:38:00 Control unwholesome thoughts; feeling bad by habit; keep practicing 00:41:44 Doing what society expects us to do; paticcasamuppāda and woeful states00:49:13 Controlling how we think, how we feel; controlling the body, controlling the breath - in this present moment00:52:53 Effort in the beginning01:00:11 Continue to practice!